For every trouble that comes our way, it is important that we do not only overcome the pain and turmoil, but also get lessons which aims are to make us better persons and give us a better perspective of the world.
In 2012, I met my biggest problem thus far and it sure shook me, and crippled me for a while until I decided to break free and stand up if I really wanted that genuine smile on my face again. It was no cinch, letting go and moving on with life, but with the careful analysis of everything that occurred, which helped me learn God’s purpose for giving me that chaos, I was able to do it and now I’m reaping good fruits.
I have no plans of recounting what happened now that everything is completely over, but I believe what I learned deserves a space in my blog. So here they are:
Do not be too likable. Sometimes, having no one who has any problems with you can cause you a big problem.
Sometimes, it’s helpful to follow your intuition. If you’ve felt any doubt about something or someone right from the start, maybe it’s better to stay away from it or that person immediately. Set aside your being stubborn and say-no-to-quitting attitude.
Ask if you have questions, worries, or doubts. Ask.
Be cautious on who you give your care to. Especially if you have the tendency to care too much. At the end, you may already be doing it for the wrong people and this can hurt you big time.
Fight if you know you’re on the right side. Make sure you’re heard.
Sometimes, it’s better to take sides instead of settling to be in the middle. ‘Cause for all you know, the safest place may turn out to be the most dangerous.
Stay away from people with big problems. You may sink with them and become a codependent. Tsktsk. Bad for your health.
Making a mess is sometimes good for it can show you who your real friends are. It can also yield good results.
Okay, it’s your life. But sometimes, it’s goddamn better if you listen to your friends. If they tell you to stop, maybe they see that you really need to stop. Remember: They are concerned about you and they are just protecting you from pain.
Do not completely trust anyone from the other side.
It’s never wrong to have the habit of looking at the brighter side, but learn when not to do it. Remember, too much optimism lets your guard down, making you unaware when bamboozlers have already crept their way toward you, tainting you with their horridness.
WTP (Acronym for ‘Wag Tanga Please, in English, Do Not be Stupid.)
Shut your big mouth if you can’t say it to the person you’re talking about.